Day 24:365 Gratitude Challenge and April 11th A to Z Challenge
Today I am grateful for my ‘inside’ thoughts because, without them, I would have been cuffed right up the side of my head for blurting out something inappropriate years ago. My inside thoughts have also saved others from the same cuffing fate for irritating me. It sounds brutal, I know, but, if you consider inside thoughts as one of the best coping mechanisms a person can have because they keep the thinker from offending the irritator, then you will completely understand how inside thoughts are a win/win for everyone.
Inside thoughts are simply the best because no one knows you are having them or what they are even about unless the other person can read your mind and, if they can read your mind, well, then you are screwed. I do not think that any of my family or friends can read my mind (thank the high heavens for that) based on the fact that no one has ever cuffed me up the side of the head and, believe you me, there certainly have been plenty of times when I should have been cuffed.
The other great thing about having inside thoughts is that you can have them anywhere just as long as you have your mind with you. If you have lost your mind, well, then again you are screwed but, since I only lose my mind occasionally, I continue to flourish with my inside thoughts. Inside thoughts have especially come in handy for me when I was working with customers at my store and when dealing with difficult family members, people in general, and when someone was blathering on and on about nothing to the point that my eyes wanted to glaze over.
The key to pulling off inside thoughts so that you are never exposed for having them lies in the way you maintain a very specific facial expression. It is important to look interested and involved in whatever the other person is saying to you. I would suggest a look very similar to this:
Notice how this beautiful woman appears interested and engaged in the person she is listening to. While looking sweet and innocent, she maintains the perfect ruse because what she is really thinking is that the speaker is so full of bullshit that they are never going to get out the conversation alive because they are going to buried in bullshit. Behind those magnificent blue eyes she is having over a thousand funny, rude, and inappropirate inside thoughts. This is how she endures the person who is going on and on and on about how awful it is to have a hangnail. That’s right. A hangnail. You know that type of person. We all know that type of person. They blather on and on about their itty bitty problems when real people are suffering terribly throughout the world with real problems. These people would love to have a hangnail as their only problem. Holy moly, I need to calm down. Deep breaths. Yes, deep breaths.
I have been in this type of situation more times than I care to remember; so much so, that I would have say that I am damn near an expert on inside thoughts as a coping mechanism. I have an acquaintance who is very fond of hearing herself talk, often repeating her stories over and over again even when I remind her that she has told me the story before. If not for my inside thoughts and visuals, I would probably have lost my cool with her and clocked her. This, in turn, would likely have offended her because she is an emotionally fragile dingbat.
This is how my inside thoughts look, feel and react when I am on the phone with her:
Then there are the know-it-alls that keep telling me how to live my life with the invisible illness (MS) that they cannot see yet tell me that I look too good to have. I have extra special inside thoughts just for them:
And what about the people who ask you those annoyingly obvious questions, the people for whom our middle fingers were intended?
I must not forget the anal co-worker who felt the need to relive his entire boring weekend with me every Monday morning, the drama queen who acted like she was the only one in the entire universe who had problems, the dope who told me how everything that has happened to me in my life has happened to me for a reason, the bullshitter who only speaks in bullshit from the moment he opens his mouth, the gossiper, the religious zealot and so on and so on and so on. Here are some of the special inside thoughts that I have had while trying not to offend any of them:
So there you have it. A glimpse inside my incredibly twisted mind of inside thoughts. If you have lasted this long reading about how my inside thoughts work, then I can only assume one of two things. 1) You, too, are a seasoned inside thoughts thinker and are standing united with me; or 2) you would like to become one. If so, then you have come to the right place.
Here are the important things to practice if you wish to master the fine art of having inside thoughts without giving yourself away:
- Practice maintaining a facial expression of sincerity and one that shows you are indeed a good listener even though you couldn’t care less. Practice until you know you can maintain it for long periods of time. Nod in agreement every now and then and even smile the odd occasion but always return to the resting sincerity face. The resting bitch face does not work here so do not even attempt it. I know because I have tried it. It only made the blathering eejits blather more.
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- Practice having awesome visuals and insults in your mind while maintaining that perfect facial expression. Prepare an arsenol of insults ahead of time so that they pop right into your head when cornered by a blatherer. You do not want to be left searching for visual insults while trying to maintain the resting interesting sincere face.
Trust me. Inside thoughts are incredibly worth it as a coping mechanism. They keep you from cuffing someone right up the side of the head, they maintain your sanity, they are your very own private and entertaining thoughts, and they keep you out of jail. What more could you ask for?
Bail money: 0
While maintaining this look and
Oh bless inside thoughts! And what a good little list of examples… I saw myself in them 😉
Sorry for the delay in replying; life took me on a few detours since posting ‘i is for inside thoughts’. You’re correct in saying ‘oh bless inside thoughts’ as I do not know where I would be without them. Thanks for dropping by the Cabbage Patch; I really appreciate it! 🙂
Oh, girl. We are totally sisters. However, I am often “an emotionally fragile dingbat”. Or maybe I’m just a dingbat.
I too, must practice inside thoughts, and I thank you for the *very helpful* tips. (I know this will surprise you, but I have gotten into trouble more than once for letting words pop out of my mouth [and brain]). Usually I manage to keep the profanity to myself, because not everyone appreciates the wonderful nuances a specially placed expletive can add to a conversation.
Can’t wait to read your “J”.
(you should feel special. I haven’t read anyONE else’s “H” or “I” posts.)
#AtoZChallenge2016 theme: dSavannah Defects
Haha! Those memes are ridiculously insane. But so true, however! 🙂
Amazing what we can find on the internet…. nothing is left to the imagination any more. Thanks for stopping by!
My inside thoughts are completely revealed through my facial expressions. I have been doing that for so long I don’t even notice I’m doing it anymore. Most people ask, “What’s that look for?” I’m not good at hiding the looks my face makes when dealing with the b/s ers of the world and I don’t know if I should change that, it’s been working to drive them away. Funny post, it made me giggle.
You have to stay with what works best for you. When I am overtired, my inside thoughts do not work and they end up showing on my face, too. Gets me in a fair bit of trouble then. Thanks for dropping by the Cabbage Patch. 🙂
You’re welcome, I enjoy your tales.
and this is why I ALWAYS needed music to concentrate in school! Else I would have doodled all day and had great conversations with…myself…in my head!
I totally agree that it is a great coping mechanism. Personal thoughts are great for encouragement, self-control, mental high-fives, and absolutely mental salutes of the middle finger!!
Thank goodness for mental salutes of the middle finger!
I’m Italian. We don’t have inside thoughts. Hahahaha.
Patchy, first of all, did I know you had MS? I don’t think so. That totally sucks and totally did NOT happen for a reason, Jesus I hate it when people say that, even though it’s just because they feel like they just need to say something and for some reason they think saying there’s a reason for it will make you feel better. Shit happens and is shit. But a sense of humour certainly helps!
Second of all, I am a BIG inside thoughts thinker. I should possibly speak up more on certain occasions, but on other, more frequent occasions I’m SO GLAD my opinions stay internal. I’ll even give MYSELF the stink eye, and possibly a little mental punch in the face, because OH MY GOD I CAN’T BELIEVE I EVEN THOUGHT THAT. Thank goodness telepathy isn’t huge yet.
Practiced inside thoughts for three intense hours today. I almost broke down once or twice… but I think I was successful, because I didn’t get what I call the “look of doubt” once!! (Yay me) Nor was I asked “if I was listening”…. Which is great, because my Inside Thoughts often make me experience an almost “out of body” experience! My sipping beer with Mads Mikkelsen didn’t seem to interfere the last bit during my interlocutor’s non stop all-negative blabbing!
Thanks again gorgeous!! You probably saved a life today! (not sure if it is mine or hers, but in both cases, I’m pretty grateful 🙂 )